What Is Attachment Theory?

Are you seeking lasting transformation and a secure attachment in your relationships? You are in the right place. As a relationship coach at Joyspire Attachment LLC, I have helped hundreds of clients improve their relationships through solution-focused coaching informed by attachment theory. You are guaranteed an experience of compassion and attention to your unique situation. I serve individuals, couples, and families. I also offer coaching around parenting and life transitions.

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How Attachment Shapes Your Relationships

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Attachment is one of the strongest forces in the human mind. It acts like glue, keeping you connected to the people who matter most in your life. At the same time, attachment is a set of learned behaviors that help the brain feel safe and connected to primary caregivers in childhood. How your parents treated each other, and how they treated you, sent messages that shaped your subconscious beliefs about yourself and others. These early experiences created a predictable blueprint for how you behave in your high-stakes adult relationships.

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These learned behaviors can shift as you grow and interact with others. Attachment styles range from secure to insecure and describe two key factors: what causes you stress in a relationship and how you respond to that stress. Contemporary attachment theory identifies four main attachment styles: secure, anxious-preoccupied, dismissive-avoidant, and fearful-avoidant. ​​​During your first coaching session, you will complete a brief assessment that helps determine your attachment style and, if relevant, your partner's. You will also receive clear steps and strategies to strengthen your relationship and a more secure attachment.

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